MIRROR NINE: LABELING AND
People with a negative operating system are inclined to look
on the dark side, and they frequently label themselves and
others with destructive, demeaning labels.
Labels work well on cans of food and bottles
of wine, but they don't function nearly so well when you apply
them to yourself and to other people. Labels are full of
half-truth, hype, and overgeneralization. They are usually
packed full of emotion that reflects the attitudes of the person
who constructed the label, rather than revealing the character
of the person being labeled.
Labels are weapons of character
destruction. It doesn't matter whether you apply a label
to yourself or to others, the label will be wrong and will leave
a trail of destruction in its wake. It's impossible to
create a label that adequately describes your own character or
that of others. Labels lie; they aren't the truth, the
whole truth, and nothing but the truth. That's the real
problem with labels - they are designed to destroy rather than
build up. They obscure rather than shed light. They
dismiss people with a single word that slips effortlessly off
Depressed people are experts at creating
destructive labels that echo endlessly in the chambers of their
mind. Their dark imagination fills their mind with
negative images, and their negative internal critic disparages
the motives and accomplishments of themselves and others.
The negative focus found at the center of
a negative operating system looks for the bad in everyone.
The negative operating system then applies labels consistent
with their dark imaginations. Most of the time their
demeaning labels are wrong - in fact, they are mislabels.
When you stand in front of this mirror,
and it starts applying labels to yourself and to others, you
know that those labels are a distortion of reality. There
is no single label you can apply to any individual that
accurately describes who that person is. Everyone is
bigger than any label.
If you insist on looking into this mirror,
and labels keep popping into your mind, then you must make a
pact with yourself. For every negative label that you
affix to yourself or anyone else, you must also apply at least
two positive labels as well. That will accomplish two
positive things. It will be fair to the other person and
to yourself, because there is no single label that truly
describes anyone. It will also force you to look for the
good in everyone you meet, including yourself.
When the mirror of labeling and
mislabeling starts talking, it's time to stop listening and walk
away. And if the Negative Label Factory refuses to cease
production, then start up your own Positive Label Factory and
inundate yourself and everyone else with positive labels.
This is your chance to make the world a better place with a
plethora of positive labels. There is no limit to how good
your life can become when you create positive labels and apply
them to everyone in your world.
Excerpt from :
Zero Tolerance To
Negative Thinking : Good-by Depression - Hello Positive Mind
David J Abbott M.D.
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